What is an SMBC? Understanding the Meaning of Single Mom by Choice

Wondering what SMBC means? SMBC stands for Single Mom by Choice—a woman who intentionally chooses to become a mother without waiting for a partner. Learn what it really means, the myths vs. realities, and if this path is right for you.

What Does SMBC Mean?

If you’ve been exploring the idea of becoming a mom on your own, you’ve probably come across the term SMBC. But what does it actually mean?

At its core, SMBC stands for Single Mom by Choice—a woman who intentionally chooses to pursue motherhood without waiting for a partner or simply decides to do it on her own.

But SMBC is more than just an acronym. It’s a mindset. A decision. A path that requires courage, clarity, and confidence.And yet, for many women, this term doesn’t fully capture the depth of what this journey really means.

So let’s talk about it.

What Does It Really Mean to Be an SMBC?

For me, this journey started over a decade ago.

At the time, I didn’t even know there was a term for what I was doing. I didn’t know there were other women like me making this choice. I only knew that deep down, I had a strong desire to become a mother—and I wasn’t willing to put my dreams on hold while waiting for the right partner.

As I approached my 34th birthday, I realized I didn’t want to look back years later and regret not taking action. I wanted my parents to witness my child’s growth. I wanted to embrace motherhood on my own terms.

Later, I discovered the term Single Mom by Choice (SMBC), and suddenly, I realized—I wasn’t alone.

Every SMBC has her own reasons for choosing this path. Some women always knew they wanted to become mothers, regardless of relationship status. Others, like me, found themselves at a crossroads—deciding between waiting for a partner or stepping into motherhood with intention.

No matter how you arrive at this decision, one thing remains true:

Choosing solo motherhood is an empowered choice.

It’s not a backup plan.
It’s not a consolation prize.
It’s not a path of lack—it’s a path of abundance.

The Myths & Realities of Being an SMBC

Let’s be real—when you tell people you’re considering becoming a Single Mom by Choice, you’ll probably hear all sorts of opinions.

Some may assume you’re taking the harder path.
Others may question whether it’s fair to raise a child alone.
And then there’s the classic: “But don’t you want to wait for a husband?”

But here’s the truth:

• Being an SMBC doesn’t mean giving up on love. Many women are still open to partnerships but choose not to let waiting for the right person delay their journey to motherhood.
  
• Kids raised by Single Moms by Choice thrive. Research (and real-life experiences) show that emotional security, not family structure, is what matters most.
  
• SMBCs aren’t alone. Many build strong communities of support through family, friends, and fellow solo moms.
  

Being an SMBC is about stepping into motherhood intentionally. It’s about creating a life that aligns with your deepest desires, rather than waiting for circumstances to dictate your path.

Is SMBC the Right Path for You?

If you’re here, chances are you’ve thought about this path—but you might still have questions, doubts, or fears.

That’s completely normal.

So, before you move forward, ask yourself:

• Is my desire to become a mother strong enough to pursue it on my own?
• Am I prepared to create a support system that works for me?
• Do I trust myself to navigate this journey with confidence?

If these questions resonate, you’re already on the path to clarity.

Watch the Conversation & Take the Next Step

I’ve had deep conversations about this topic with women just like you—women who are figuring out what this journey means for them.

If you want to dive deeper, watch my discussion on what it means to define motherhood for yourself:

🎥 Watch the YouTube Video Here

And if you’re looking for support as you explore this decision, I invite you to reach out about my 1:1 Coaching Programs:

SMBC Thinkers Program → If you’re still considering solo motherhood and need clarity.
SMBC Trailblazers Program → If you’ve made the decision and are ready to take action.

Wherever you are in this process, know this:

You don’t have to wait for permission.
You don’t have to fit into anyone else’s timeline.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Your journey is yours to define—and I’m here to help you navigate it with confidence.

Let’s talk.

With Love,

Dr. Ambra

FAQs About SMBC (Single Mom by Choice)

What does SMBC stand for?
SMBC stands for Single Mom by Choice—a woman who chooses to become a mother without a partner, often through fertility treatments, adoption, or other paths to solo motherhood.

How do I know if becoming an SMBC is right for me?
If you’re considering SMBC, ask yourself: Do I feel ready to become a mother on my own terms? Am I prepared to build a support system? Do I trust myself to navigate this journey? If these questions resonate, you may be ready to take the next step.

Do I have to go through IVF to become an SMBC?
Not necessarily. Some SMBCs use IUI (intrauterine insemination), some choose adoption, and others explore embryo donation or surrogacy. There are many paths to solo motherhood!

Is being a Single Mom by Choice hard?
Like all forms of motherhood, being an SMBC has challenges, but it also comes with immense joy and fulfillment. The key is creating a strong support system, planning for financial and emotional well-being, and embracing the journey with confidence.